The Pain–Pleasure Lever: A Simple Strategy to Change Your Behaviors and Transform Your Life

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A Highly Valuable Article That Can Transform Your Life in Every Area
The Formula of the Pain–Pleasure Lever for Reaching Pleasure
A Powerful Strategy for Changing Inappropriate Behaviors and Creating Powerful and Successful Behaviors in Our Personality
Article No. 1
Date: August 16, 2026
Dr. Zahra Khezri
Psychologist and Counselor for Progress in All Aspects of Life
Everything we do is ultimately motivated by moving away from the pain of an undesirable situation and moving toward a desirable situation and achieving a positive result.
The subject of this article is a strategy for changing inappropriate behaviors and creating powerful and successful behaviors in our personality.
Sometimes we completely know that a behavior is not good for us, but we continue doing it.
Why?
Because our mind has created certain associations between behaviors and feelings of pain and pleasure.
When we associate a behavior with pleasure, doing it becomes easier for us. And when we associate not doing a behavior with pain, our mind moves toward doing that behavior.
Therefore, to change an inappropriate behavior, we need to change these mental associations.
My Personal Experience with the Pain–Pleasure Lever
When I migrated, even though I had excellent financial circumstances, a good job, and a great income in my own country, I was willing to work in a restaurant from night until morning in Malaysia to earn money.
Why?
Because the tiredness caused by working hard was more pleasurable for me than not working and having no money.
I knew the law of cleanliness and its excellent results. Therefore, I cleaned for three and a half hours every day until late at night because the pleasure of cleanliness was greater for me than the discomfort of being in an unclean environment.
This experience taught me that when our mind connects a behavior to a valuable and pleasurable result, performing that behavior becomes much easier.
How Did I Change My Inappropriate Eating Behavior?
For many years, I consumed sugar and sweet fruits, a lot of bread, and a lot of rice.
When my skin and my overall health were affected, I decided to change this inappropriate eating pattern with the motivation of improving my health and following the Law of Health.
After living with this inappropriate eating pattern for 40 years, I was able to stop it and follow the Law of Health.
My dream was health.
And God, who loves us, gave me the Law of Health and also gave me the determination to implement it.
This experience was extremely valuable to me. It showed me that when a person has a powerful reason for change, they can change behaviors that they have carried with them for many years.
How to Use the Pain–Pleasure Lever
Take a piece of paper.
You can use this powerful formula in every area of your life and experience progress that is beyond description.
This can be related to romantic relationships, health, making money and building wealth, career, self-confidence, self-worth, family, and every other area of life.
On One Side of the Paper, Write:
If I continue this inappropriate behavior, what results will I experience in my life?
For example, if you have an inappropriate behavior in your romantic relationship and you know that this behavior is not right, but you continue doing it, take a piece of paper and write:
If I continue this behavior for the next five years, what results will I experience in my life?
For example:
The love between us will gradually decrease.
My partner will dislike me and distance themselves from me.
I will be deprived of receiving love and affection from my spouse.
Our relationship may end, and I will have to experience the pain of separation.
These are the forms of pain that may result from continuing an inappropriate behavior.
The Other Side of the Paper: Reaching Pleasure
On the other side of the paper, write:
If I work on myself and change this behavior, what results will I achieve over the next five years?
For example:
I will be proud of myself for solving this problem.
I will enjoy my romantic relationship and have a future filled with happiness.
The love and affection between us will increase.
I will enjoy continuing my life with my partner even more.
When your mind can clearly see the pain of continuing an inappropriate behavior and the pleasure of changing it, your motivation to change becomes stronger.
Changing a Behavior and Turning It into Part of Your Personality
We stop doing an inappropriate behavior when we grow so much in our personality, sense of self-worth, and sense of deservingness that we no longer need constant willpower to do the right thing.
That behavior becomes part of our personality.
You work every day and make money. Do you need a great deal of willpower every day just to go to work?
No.
Why?
Because working and achieving results have become a behavior and a part of your life.
When you repeat the right behavior every day, gradually it can become something that feels more natural and pleasurable to you.
Do This Exercise for 21 Days
Write and read this paper for 21 days, in the morning when you wake up and at night before going to sleep.
Before going to sleep, visualize.
Imagine that you did not make this change.
Imagine the difficulties you would be experiencing.
Imagine how, in all areas of your life and career, you would be unable to remain focused, happy, and successful.
Let us work on ourselves in such a way that not making this change becomes strongly associated with pain and difficulty, while changing the behavior becomes associated with pleasure, happiness, success, and satisfaction with ourselves.
Ask Yourself
Write in your notebook:
What is the reason for my inappropriate behavior?
What is the reason for my appropriate behavior?
Choose the issue that is your highest priority and that you truly want to change with all your heart, and write about it.
After you create a change in that behavior, move on to changing another behavior.
We can show you the path to change, but you are the one who must walk this path with commitment.
Discover yourself.
Write.
During this entire period, while you are writing, listen to the lessons and files from the Self-Worth Course and the Self-Confidence Course. At the same time, write, focus, and work on yourself.
The Pain–Pleasure Lever in Every Area of Life
You can use this lever for making money and building wealth, health, and every other area of life.
Gradually, you will see the changes, and you will be amazed by the excellent and increasingly better results in your life.
Ask yourself:
What did I discover about myself and my behavior?
What do I want to do to solve this problem?
Write down your decisions.
When you write, you focus on yourself and your behaviors, and you can see the path to change more clearly.
If One Person in the World Has Done It, You Can Do It Too
We can accomplish anything.
If one person in the world has been able to do it, then you can do it too.
From now on, do not accept the excuses created by your own mind.
Ask yourself:
Why do many relationships progress beautifully, while the romantic relationships of some people are always painful and unstable?
Why are some people successful at earning money, while others constantly face financial difficulties?
Why can some people maintain healthy and successful behaviors, while others repeatedly decide to change but return to their previous behavior again?
We can change our behavior and our personality.
Share Your Experience with Others
Write on our website about the results you have achieved.
Write about what changes you have created in which areas of your life.
Your results can inspire other people who read about your experience.
Perhaps your experience will show another person:
“If they could do it, I can do it too.”
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You Can Change
We can accomplish anything if someone in the world has already been able to do it.
Sometimes we simply need to change the mental association we have created between pain and pleasure.
A behavior that gives us pleasure today may create pain for us in the future.
And a behavior that feels difficult today may become one of the greatest sources of happiness, health, and success in our future.
So ask yourself:
If I continue this same behavior, what will my life look like five years from now?
And then ask yourself:
If I decide to change starting today, what will my life look like five years from now?
Write the answers to these two questions on paper.
Perhaps this very piece of paper can be the beginning of a major transformation in your life.
Stay Connected with Us
For easier communication, you can contact us through WhatsApp and write to us about the issue that currently has the highest priority in your life and that you want to change.
We can share the path to change and strategies for solving the problem with you, but you are the one who must walk this path with commitment.
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Share Your Results with Us
Share your results with us.
Write about what changes you have created, what you have discovered about yourself, and what results you have achieved by applying this powerful formula.
Stay connected with us so that you can experience greater change and greater progress more easily in every area of your life.
You Can Change
If one person has been able to do it, you can do it too.
Tell yourself proudly:
“I can do it too.”
“I did it; you can definitely do it too.”
Dr. Zahra Khezri
Psychologist and Counselor for Progress in All Aspects of Life